Friday Night Date Night

 

As from my previous entry I had a date Friday night. First time meeting a guy from an online dating site and for the most part went very well.

First off, he got the reservation wrong at the restaurant we were going to and got the text message about 4 hours before we meet saying he made a bit of a mistake (well that's a good start) and the back up restaurant was fully booked. Luckily he found a nice little place and still got a reservation for Friday night (phew).

So I make my way to the meeting point and we managed to recognize each other. Now I was going on what I read on eHarmony and was expecting what was on the profile of 5" 9'. No. He was just about my height which is 5"6'. I didn't say anything as it might of been a conversion problem as he isn't from the UK and only been living here for just over 2 months. So very true about online dating, never believe everything that is on the profile.

We then went to the restaurant and got some very nice seats and a lovely meal. He even ordered a bottle of champagne for the 2 of us and we talked the entire time, and laughed and shared various stories including how eHarmony was doing for us. He had done slightly better then me and had a 3 month relationship with a women on there when he was in the UK for a year on business and I ended up with the desperate, only on here for the free weekend deal kind of guys. And he of course is very good looking and someone I wouldn't of thought would be interested in me in a million years.

We had a lovely meal and shared a dessert and naturally finished the bottle of champagne, he then asked me to either go to a movie or a drink near by (after he picked up the bill). I didn't fancy a movie at that time of and luckily the places nearby were closed so went for a drink at a bar and attempted a conversation in a noisy place. We then walked around Soho for a little bit aiming for Oxford Street area. Strange thing, he spotted a kinky lingerie store in the backs of Soho and noted how nice the shop display was (roll eyes). Finally got back to the tube station and parted there.

It was a very nice evening and he didn't force himself on me, didn't touch in appropriately. We also didn't kiss either but got a nice hug as we parted and I left feeling happy. Then woke up with a champagne hang over.

Saturday evening he emails me asking for another date. So we are going out again tonight for dinner and a movie. Was initially a theater show, but again we got wrong and had to slump with a movie instead.

Not feeling that initial spark or excitement at this time between us. My guess is slow start for us both, will be seeing how this will pan out.

Yours

Secret Virgin

Date Nerves

 

So this date is happening tomorrow night. He is booking the restaurant (we got it down to 2 choices eventually) so will be getting the time and where to meet later on tonight when he gets in from work.

Don't know how he is feeling but I'm nervous as hell. He is a very good looking guy from his pictures eHarmony and facebook and me.....well just blurgh! Typical questions are going threw my head, "what if he doesn't like me?" "See's me and runs", "Try not to say something stupid you silly cow becuase you know you will." 

Never found a good way to deal with first dates, pretty much all of mine are my worst fears coming to life right in front of me (and for good reasons very few get a date 2.) And tomorrow is going to be busy enough, got a hair appointment and then another appointment with a big computing company only a few hours before the date and that's not helping as I might turn up looking a bit frazzled after running round London all day getting to appointments.

And now I am blog blabbling. That's not a good sign. How do you deal with getting ready, and dealing with the nerves before a first date?

Yours 

Secret Virgin

Dinner?

After 3 months of wasted time and disappointment on my eHarmony experiment. It seems something may of come of it.

Last night a guy, asked me out to dinner next week and have started the process of setting a day, time and location. We originally met on eHarmony over Christmas and then we lost contact as he was moving and found each other again on facebook. I made the first move asking how his house moving went, then after a one message he asks me out to dinner "or something". One hurdle over come, now approaching the next one which could end in a good jump or crash and having an embarrassing fall.

Despite this, i am still not overly impressed by eHarmony. Right now they are being rather persistent with money, bit like one of my exs whom became rather dependent on me like a young child with there mother. A lot of money was spent and just ended up disappointed with guys sounding desperate, pathetic, uninteresting and down right depressing all supposedly ideally matched for me. I found it very unlikely, so eHarmony experiment bit of a disappointment.

Getting the diary out and starting to plan. Will let you know.

Yours
Secret Virgin

Digital Dating

For regular readers will of read, last entry I was trying to decide if it was worth signing up to eHarmony as I had received a new communication from someone and couldn't respond or see photo's due to me not being a member. Which is complete crock if you ask me and a lot of money but luckily I was offered 3 months for the price of one and after some discussions with my mum decided to go ahead with it.

So been in regular communication with a guy on eHarmony and we have much in common and cute from his photo's. After a couple of weeks of eHarmony mail he asked me last night he enjoyed chatting with me online and would like to meet up for drinks. Which is fair enough and got to give it a go I suppose, and was hoping to meet up with him at some point anyway but didn't want to seem pushy. Now that we are going to sort a time to meet up it seems more real and a bit more scary. All of the men I have dated ended up being stalkers of some description including my very first "boyfriend" and he was the worst of the lot.

Some mixture of excitement and fear right now. But going to plug on with it and hopefully he won't end up hiding outside my apartment.

Yours
Secret Virgin

Taking the First Step

Went to check up on my new apartment today and took my parents along for advice.

On the train journey home there was a very cute guy sitting opposite me Bit like David Tennant but with a smaller face and a bit shorter. I did on a couple of attempts to catch his eye with not much success and seem a bit difficult with parents there.

On the rare occasion that I had a "partner" I was always approached and never the other way round. So I have very little idea on how to approach someone I liked, never taken the first step in a relationship. Does it make a difference?

I have been rejected many times threw out my life so I tend to let someone make the big steps forward and I just either agree or disagree. A few missed opportunities but didn't think they were opportunities till it was too late.

Maybe that's what's wrong. You would think a string of rejections add another one it wouldn't make a difference but to me it does.

As it was very hot I wore a very tight fitting a dress and when I bent over it didn't leave much to the imagination on the top regions. But he seem to go out of his way not to look at me directly, having the folks there put him off a bit.

I am waiting for something but don't know what. Once I get going I am myself. Why can't I take that first step?

Yours
Secret Virgin

How to Kiss for the First Time

Funny video I found on "How to Kiss for the First Time" thou the title is very misleading. It doesn't actually tell you how to kiss.

Highly useless but somewhat funny.

Sorry they disabled the embedding link so has to be URL.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dkQdI0AxxOI

Yours
Secret Virgin

Secret Virgin Interview

I was approached a couple of days back from the writer of The American Virgin blog and asked to do an interview for one of there regular features called "First Person".

Check out the interview here

Check out there blog here

Yours
Secret Virgin