A new start

I feel like a new start is coming on. Looks like I am almost set to move to a new location and start a new chapter in my life.

Hopefully this will mean a new job as well as hopefully some sort of love life. I am going to be living in a much more sociable area then I am now. Yet this nagging feeling of remaining alone in the world still hangs there.

I think I might start up a step by step guide for myself for getting out and about and meeting more people.

Yours
Secret Virgin

The Science of Pulling

We all know pulling is an important part of attracting someone. Biology takes over and you are at the mercy of your emotions. But what is the best way to attract the man we want, what makes them attracted to us? Found this very interesting article.

Lust isn’t an art, it’s pure science. When you fancy a bloke, your rational mind is turned upside down by a crazy mix of hormones, subconscious psychology, chemistry and down n’ dirty biology. If he fancies you back, the result can be more explosive than anything you saw in the school science lab.

The good news is that you don’t need a biology degree, or even a bunsen burner, to master the appliance of man-pulling science. All you need is our cheat sheet. Let the lesson begin.

MSN Dating

I recommend the read, there's stuff in there that I didn't know about. Well I knew about the ovulation point. Here are there main points on pulling.

1. Win the Dating survival of he fittest.
Evolution hasn't changed much when it comes to sex. We still fight for that Alpha male, get ready to get them claws out girls.

Hot Tip from MSN Dating:

How to work it: Keep yourself in shape. And by “in shape” we mean healthy – skinny minnies may get the modelling jobs, but men are biologically primed to prefer women with well-toned flesh on her bones.

This is promising for me. Now I am slender but not thin, I exercise regularly when I can. Thou still working off that 7lb from Christmas.

2. Unleash you Pheromones 
Love at first Sniff? Seems to be

Tip from MSN Dating

How to work it: You can’t change your pheromones, but you can ensure that they’re picked up by potential lovers. Avoid smothering your natural pheromones with perfume, stinky food or BO.

3. Look Lippy
Thanks goodness for limp plumping technology in lip sticks. I also read somewhere that red lippy attracts best as it shows you are primed.

Tip from MSN Dating

How to work it: Forget about surgery – that makes your lips look “done”, not plump. The secret is lashings of lip balm, and lipstick with reddish shades.  

4. Face Facts
Yeah like I'm going to walk into a salon with a calculator and work out my best hair style. Thou well kept hair is going to get you more looks then a bee hive. Which reminds me need a haircut.

MSN Dating tip

How to work it: Get a haircut. Don’t take it from us, take it from the study’s author, Professor Kang Lee: "Our study explains why sometimes an attractive person looks unattractive or vice versa after a haircut, because hairdos change the ratios.” So take a calculator to the salon. Which reminds us…

5. Don't have a best side. 
That's OK I don't have one. Apparently symmetry is important when we go prowling for love.

MSN Dating Tip:

How to work it: Take a spirit level to the salon along with that calculator, and avoid experimenting with 80s asymmetrical hairdos.

Hands up who takes a spirit level with them to that salon?

6. Know your Cycle
I have just finished a cycle and boy was I horny as hell.

MSN Dating Tip

How to work it: Get an ovulation thermometer. When you’re hot, hit the town and work those ovaries.

7. Nip Your Waist  
I have always tried to accentuate my hips, waste and boobs when dressing as I do have a slight hourglass figure. It's finding the write stuff.

MSN Dating tip

How to work it: See it as an excuse to go nuts in Top Shop. This year’s dress shape is a pared-down prom look: nipped-in waists and flouncy hips. Alternatively, buy some Spanx.

8. Ignore the Beer Gogglers
Now this did surprise me a little. But thinking about alcohol does make you more prone to do something stupid then actually fall in love.

MSN Dating Tip

What to do: Spike his beer with tap water.

9. Mirror Mirror 
Being subtle always seems to work best. I think I need more refinement.

MSN Dating Tip

How to work it: Make a man feel instinctively feel connected to you by subtly mirroring his moves. We won’t suggest aping his dress style to help you look alike, because that’s what stalkers do.

10. Bewitch him with your eyes 
I have always wanted show stopping eyes but they tend to be hidden behind glasses. Maybe a new style is in order?

MSN Dating Tip

How to work it: Hold his eye for a second or two longer than you’d naturally find comfortable. Watch him tingle.

11. Avoid Dad-Dancers 
I always do, nothing less attractive then someone trying to compensate with over the top dancing.

MSN Dating Tip

How to work it: Take dance classes. Get off with the teacher.

A lot of these tips I found helpful but with most of them I have found myself doing. I often wonder if something has been left out.

Yours
Secret Virgin

How to Kiss for the First Time

Funny video I found on "How to Kiss for the First Time" thou the title is very misleading. It doesn't actually tell you how to kiss.

Highly useless but somewhat funny.

Sorry they disabled the embedding link so has to be URL.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dkQdI0AxxOI

Yours
Secret Virgin

Friends First

I have always been interested in how couples got together. A few have started out as brief encounters at bars and clubs, some chance encounters in the supermarket, a few good relationships I know started online, and then there is the friends first.

This is an idea I like. I am someone who doesn't trust someone immediately after I first meet them. But then with past experience with trusting someone I shouldn't have and the fear of letting myself be me and putting/scaring someone off doesn't really help that either. I also think I am a bit too choosy when it comes to men, I know I need to relax a bit if I am going to get anywhere at all.

I know I am not a striking women compared to my mates especially my face. I have a relatively nice/fit body that some women would kill to have and have made several hairdresser's jealous about my hair. Mainly colour I was told that my natural colour is a very commonly requested colour in salons which boosted my confidence so I take great care of it. I know my looks probably won't get me 2nd glances from men so I tend to rely on my personality and wit to charm someone for the majority. Thou there has been the rare approach in clubs from someone, but as I said that's rare and they are probably drunk.

This idea of friends first has great appeal, thou seems like a slow process. Which as a Virgin is probably a good thing. But then I have longed for passion, the sudden urge to have someone to hold, kiss, caress and feel. To be felt wanted, needed and loved at that moment in time. To just let myself go since I have been holding back for so long and be in the moment and really discover what I am all about.

I know sex is not the be end of a relationship and that friendship is an important part of it. But it's still has a large role to play and can't be something to take on lightly. You have to be happy with someone who you know has some understanding of what you are as a person.

But to get that moment with someone, and to let myself go is something I want very much. A rare moment to find.

Yours

Secret Virgin

Secret Virgin Interview

I was approached a couple of days back from the writer of The American Virgin blog and asked to do an interview for one of there regular features called "First Person".

Check out the interview here

Check out there blog here

Yours
Secret Virgin

Moody Depression

My mood is as dull as the weather today.

I went out for my daily exercise and the world just seemed dull. There was colour but seemed somewhat desaturated. I have once again entered into one of those days where I enter into a spiral of sadness and re-evaluate my life.

I exited from the house with multiple thoughts in my head. What's wrong with me? Why do other's assume I am not doing something because nothing has happened? Why am I not where I want to be in life? Why does the horizon seem close yet finds a way to escape me?

I know my life right now is very chaotic, what with struggling for work (freelance) and finding a new house. But I still feel stuck in a hole while the world continues to move. I am also fed up and angry and the constant "Something will come along soon", "Don't worry" bull crap that everyone keeps throwing at me. Soon has come and gone, the pity party is getting depressing and does not help my mood.

Threw out my university life I managed to convince myself that the reason I don't have a boyfriend/steady relationship is because I was too caught up in my studies. Now I convinced myself that the reason I am still alone is because my life is still not right and once I move things will happen. Well today I have rethought that. Did I come up with this to convince myself or to others? Am I still a virgin because I come up with these excuses not to be with someone, or as a fog to hide how unattractive men seem to find me?

What I do is very demanding and many in that field are alone because they are so career driven or are in a job that don't sit in the 9-5 routine. I like it like that, I don't like keeping to certain hours I like the unpredictable side of it. But with things being tough I have also questioned myself "Am I good enough?" I have even looked at what I have done and said "That is shit why am I doing this?". Nothing else excites me.

Is this why I am a virgin still? Because I don't see myself as being good enough? Or too caught up in work that I don't want to make a commitment? Or is it the fear of the grass not being greener on the other side?

I get angry at others, I get angry and put myself in a dark place, some days there is light but still in this dark hole of anger and sadness. Often this anger leads to action.

Something has to be done.

Yours
Secret Virgin

No Babies for Roger

Funny yet somewhat disturbing.



I have no idea what contraceptive device that is but looks scary. LOL

Got to love Roger.

Secret Virgin